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Employee Love Languages
Five currencies of motivation — people are paid in more than money, and everyone weights them differently.
Use it when someone has gone flat, is hinting at leaving or is negotiating — and when you're designing an offer. Two employees with identical packages can be a delighted hire and a flight risk, because they're being paid in the wrong currency.
The five languages
| Language | What it sounds like |
|---|---|
| Salary | "I want strong, predictable compensation — reward me now." |
| Upside | "Pay me in the win: equity, bonuses, a real stake in the outcome." |
| Learning & growth | "Stretch me — new skills, new scope, someone to learn from." |
| Responsibility & independence | "Give me ownership and get out of the way." |
| Proximity to the manager | "Time with you is the reward — access, context, being in the room." |
- Rank someone's top two — from what they ask for, what they complain about, and what they light up over.
- Check the role and the package against those two, not against your own preferences.
- Revisit at least yearly: the languages shift with life stage — upside chasers become salary people, independents start wanting proximity.
I've met employees genuinely motivated by every one of these. The mistake is assuming their language is yours — the founder who'd crawl over glass for upside, baffled that a great engineer just wants a calm salary and Tuesdays with their mentor.
Source / credit
Outstride original — the name riffs on Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages
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